“Sometimes the best way to deliver a punch is to step back. But step back too
far and you ain’t fighting at all."
Life as we know it is a series of disappointments, tragedies and little sparks of hope. No one begins life with perfection and no one ends it that way either. We are all miracles of the universe, born into families we have no control over. The doors to life open and we are pushed through it, unknowing of what lays ahead of us.
A child born to abusive parents, criminals or the perfect family is no different in the beginning. We are all babies, dependant on our guardians to take care of us...we may be black, white or brown, we are still babies reaching out to that hand that's supposed to be there to hold us. Some maybe be lucky enough to be born into perfect families, some may have a troubled life and some may even be abused and killed way before they see daylight, that's life.
Growing up is a process of learning , experimenting and failing. Once away from the nurturing of a perfect or imperfect parent, it is purely up to each living being to decide where the course of life will take them. A person bought up by alcoholics could be the most successful, where as a person bought up by a king might be a beggar, it is solely up to us.
One can give excuses for poor upbringing leading to inconsiderate behaviour, or lack of love leading to desperation for attention but there is nothing that could justify those excuses.
Dave Pelzer is a popular novelist, winner of the Volunteer Of The Year award and has dedicated his life to helping other people. Although he might sound like someone bought up with ethics and taught respect in a normal family one might be shocked to hear of his upbringing.
Dave nearly died in the hands of his parents, his stories is one of the most shocking cases of child abuse reported, where he was forced to drink ammonia and to eat from his baby brothers' dirty diapers. His mother once nearly choked him to death. At school, he was unable to breathe well because of the swelling on his throat. So much more...
Can someone like him be blamed for turning bad?
Yes, because it is we who control our future, not our parents, not our teachers or our friends. Everyone has to take the reigns of their own destiny before someone else does...
Don't ask for sympathy because of a poor childhood, ask for admiration for becoming someone no one expected you to.
We have one life, live it as you should not as others presume you would.
“Your life is the sum result of all the choices you make, both consciously and unconsciously. If you can control the process of choosing, you can take control of all aspects of your life. You can find the freedom that comes from being in charge of yourself.”
~ Bennett
Well said...
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